
Over the last few years, there’s been a trend on various forms of social media of women taking on the role of “tradwife”, where they relegate themselves to, and presumably find fulfillment in, traditionally conservative gender roles of the woman as homemaker and nurture. Laura Wade’s play Home, I’m Darling may have preceded this trend by a few years when it premiered in Wales in 2018, but it nonetheless plays like a deliberate deconstruction of the idea. This production at Lyrics Arts, under the direction of Scott Ford, is a funny, well-acted, and ultimately surprisingly moving portrait of a marriage where nostalgia is used to try to ward off the problems of the world.
Kendra Mueller and Kyler Chase play Judy and Johnny, a middle-class British couple who live a near-perfect representation of wholesome 1950s sitcom life, with Johnny heading off to work every day with his suit and briefcase and Judy serving as the homemaker. The issue is, this isn’t the 1950s – it’s the present day, and Judy and Johnny are deliberately aping the 50s as a lifestyle choice. A lot of comedy comes from their interactions with others such as the family friend Fran (Siri Hellerman) who is proud of her job but more than a little tempted to join in the facade and Judy’s radical feminist mother Sylvia (Patti Hynes-McCarthy) who is gobsmacked her daughter would choose to live what she sees as a regressive existence. But even the comedic scenes between them have an underlying sense of tension. Judy staying at home and maintaining the house with its period-accurate 50s appliances (represented in a colorful and meticulously-realized multi-layer set designed by Ren Edson) means she doesn’t get a lot of interaction with the real world, and you almost get the sense Judy is trying to seal herself off, until the real world starts coming for her. Fran tells Judy that she saw Johnny having lunch at the local shopping center with a young woman, which Judy tries to brush off but can’t quite. On top of that, it costs a lot of money to live the life of a 1950s sitcom, and the couple are counting on Johnny receiving a promotion soon in order to stay comfortable and happy.

The more Judy and Johnny find themselves in contact with the rest of the world, the more their own lifestyle begins to fray. One turning point is a scene where they invite Johnny’s new boss over for drinks. The boss in this case is Alex (Izzy Maxwell), the woman Johnny was seen having lunch with. This creates an uncomfortable parody of the typical sitcom plot, laced with tension as the couple try to ingratiate themselves with her while also explaining their choices to live in the 50s to this fully modern woman, all while Judy tries to gauge exactly what the relationship between Johnny and Alex is. Another is when Fran’s husband Marcus (Charlie Morgan) is suspended from his job due to allegations of sexual misconduct, which of course was the sort of thing that just wasn’t talked about in the 1950s.
A lot of credit should go to director Ford and his cast for maintaining a tonal balance here – this is a show that could easily go wrong. Play the sitcom parody too broadly and the real-world stuff doesn’t wouldn’t fit. Lean too hard into the dramatic material and the sitcom parody would either come across in bad taste or like some kind of cult. But what we get is a very funny show that nonetheless carries the effective dramatic throughline of a couple trying to find ways to keep their marriage healthy. Mueller and Chase have excellent chemistry, and you truly get the sense that they care for each other. The show’s set transitions go a long way towards maintaining the comedic elements of the show’s tone, with the performers literally dancing as they move props and pieces on and off. There’s also a barnstorming moment in the second act where Sylvia unloads on Judy and Fran in an extended monologue about what life in the 1950s was really like, not the sitcommy version Judy has been living (“the 50s didn’t even look like this in the 50s!”), reminding them of all the ugliness and difficulty that the aesthetics of the period tried to hide. It’s such a standout moment for Patti Hynes-McCarthy (one that generated spontaneous applause from my audience) that you almost expect the show will wrap up soon after – after all, what else it there to say? But the actual ending of the show is still a while coming, and it comes in a surprisingly straightforward way: Judy and Johnny sit down and talk. No punchlines, no plot contrivances, just two people who love each other trying to figure out how to make it work. It’s such a mature and thoughtful way to wrap things up, and I found myself genuinely moved.

I had almost no knowledge of Home, I’m Darling going in, and even then it was vastly different from what I was expecting. But what I got was ultimately more complicated, challenging, and probably more satisfying than I could have possibly anticipated.
HOME, I’M DARLING plays at Lyric Arts through June 21st


























